Mom Called Me A Bleeding Heart Liberal

A few days back my mother called me a “bleeding heart liberal” – while I was taking her to lunch on her birthday, no less! The conversation started out briefly talking about gay rights, having come up after I wondered out loud if my cousin who owns a Chick-fil-A restaurant had had any problems lately.

It quickly dissolved into a deba…, um, ‘discussion’, over homelessness and hunger, and poverty in general. Our talk revolved around “entitlement programs,” laziness, mental health, general government “interference,” – all kinds of happy topics.

Of course her stance was that people should take responsibility for themselves and not just be looking for handouts. “Look at how many people on welfare you see with cell phones.” As if that one criterion determined that a person must not be poor if they can afford a cell phone. Or her comment about the things people buy in a grocery store with food stamps. Needless to say, my point in trying to suggest that maybe things aren’t always as they seem is when I got labeled (I’m a registered Republican, by the way). Continue reading




I’m Going to Make You Cry – Part 2

Last week I wrote about our upcoming CEO Sleepout – our incredible September 6 event where CEOs and community leaders are going to sleep out in downtown Durham to call attention to poverty in the Triangle.

I shared with you some of their ‘statements’ on why they are sleeping out at this event and I promised you some more.  They are all so good!

If you want to see everyone who is participating and read why they are participating, just go to www.unitedwaytriangle.org/ceo .  You can also go there to donate to the cause!

So as promised:

Mike Ruffin, County Manager, Durham County Government:  “I have personally been raising money for the homeless since my arrival in Durham. I volunteer for the Durham Rescue Mission which houses around 200 homeless individuals and families every night. As a child, my family was on public assistance and I had a constant fear of becoming homeless. Continue reading




I’m Going to Make You Cry…

I’m going to make you cry.  How?  In this blog, and future ones, I’m sharing with you the great statements Triangle CEOs and community leaders have made about why they are participating in our CEO Sleepout.

Have you heard about our CEO Sleepout? 

Yes, CEOs and community leaders are sleeping out in downtown Durham on the evening of September 6 to call attention to poverty in the Triangle.

What about Triangle poverty? 

Well, 203,007 people in Durham, Johnston, Orange and Wake Counties all live in poverty.

What does that mean? 

It means those families are making less than $23,000 (for a family of 4) per year.  Reality and numbers don’t lie – it takes $53,000 a year to cover the basics of housing, healthcare, childcare, transportation and taxes for a family of four.

So on September 6, a group of our leaders and supporters will gather in front of the Durham Performing Arts Building, across the street from the jail, near the railroad tracks to call attention to Triangle poverty, discuss ideas and possible solutions to help, and then bed down for the night.

Why?

That’s what I want you to read in their own words.  Get ready to tear up.

Dr. Eric Becoats, Superintendent, Durham Public Schools: “Sometimes I lay in bed at night and have difficulty sleeping. I just stare at my ceiling and wonder how many of my nearly 33,000 students are tucked in their beds sleeping peacefully…but I also wonder how many of my students are still awake in the middle of the night because they are cold, Continue reading




What is systems change?

Many people today are talking about systems change, including those of us here at United Way of the Greater Triangle. According to the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, “Systems change is a shift in the way that a community makes decisions about policies, programs, and the allocation of its resources — and, ultimately, in the way it delivers services to its citizens. To undertake systems change, a community must build collaborative bridges among multiple agencies, community members, and other stakeholders.” A nice, long, and, believe it or not, fairly simple definition. But what does this look like?

Here are some examples: Continue reading




Not Without My Dog…

Think about losing your job and having your lights turned off.  Now think about being locked out of your home by the mortgage company.  Then the repo guy comes for your car.  No cell phone.  No computer. Not even a change of clothes.  You sit on a street until you are run out of the neighborhood because now you’re a vagrant – no longer wanted. 

You walk and walk until dark falls.  You hover under a bridge for shelter from the rain and find a beat up cardboard box you crawl into for the night.  Everything is gone. E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G.  Days turn into weeks.  You beg on the corner for loose change while people drive by yelling, “Get a job!”  You have nothing.

Then one day she comes loping down the street.  She’s dirty, thirsty, and has a wary look in her eye.  She draws near and you offer this four-legged visitor some water, keeping your distance.  She laps the water quickly, looks up and for the briefest of moments, she wags her tail.  You extend your hand.  She slowly crawls to you.  And now you have someone else to focus on.  Someone who is as beat up as  you.  Someone homeless like you.  Someone without anything in the world – except now she has you and you have her.

You bond.  She follows you.  You share your food from the dumpster.  She sleeps next to you at night, keeping you warm.  Where you go, she patiently follows.  You talk to her, tell her it will get better…someday. She becomes your world.

Then someday it does get better.  You hear about an open shelter.  You head that way hoping to be first in line. You reach the building and there, in bold letters, is a sign that says, “No Pets”.  You look at your companion. You turn and walk away to find a new bridge and a new box. Continue reading